Relationship and Sex: 7 Things You Should NEVER Do During Sex
For all the awesomeness that sex provides, there can also be some downsides. Sex is one of those high risk/high reward situation.
Certain things we do, subconsciously, without knowing, could be a huge turn off in our relationships. But there are other things we do knowing fully well what they are, but having no idea they actually suffer our sex life. It could be a No-No for your partner next time after such an experience. Follow these expert tips on 7 things you should NEVER do during sex, and you are on your way to satisfying your partner and attaining climax.
#1 Things You Should NEVER Do During Sex: Checking Your Phone When You Get a Text
Whether it’s a text or a phone call, it can wait. It’s bad enough when people check their phone on a date, but mid-sex? Come on. Anyone who does that is basically saying they are not present in what’s going between the sheets. This can directly stifle the sex life of the relationship easily.
#2 Things You Should NEVER Do During Sex: Calling Out The Wrong Name
Yes, we are all guilty of forgetting the name of that occasional memorable one-night stand. Calling out another name while having sex with your partner could tear down the mansions of climax in a second. So, to be safe, just yell out, “Oh, Yeah – this relationship rocks” kidding with the last part though.
#3 Things You Should NEVER Do During Sex: Not Shutting Up
It is one thing to talk dirty or to check in to make sure your partner is enjoying themselves, but it’s another to talk and talk and talk. Your partner is just as concerned as you are about the degrading economy, how relationships suck these days and the flaws of the government, but the bedroom isn’t a place for such discussions.
#4 Things You Should NEVER Do During Sex: Rushing Through Foreplay
Ever heard the old adage, “as you lay your bed, so you lie on it”. Foreplay gets us nice and wet for the main event, and the longer it’s extended, the easier it can be for us to orgasm. Rushing it is just a total bummer, and unfair. If you have no place to be, then take your time and enjoy it. Make your partner remember this one memorable moment. That moment might transcend to a more memorable relationship.
#5 Things You Should NEVER Do During Sex: Pressuring Her to Finish
“Focusing on the end game too much can be detrimental for your sexual health because it can create tension”, says, Dr. Snyder, a sex therapist in New York City. Attaining climax without her does not mean she committed any offence or has something wrong with her system. “Sometimes it’s just not going to happen, which is fine”. If she cannot finish, which you might have noticed on other occasions, the best way to address it is to include making self-stimulation a mutual activity in the sex life of your relationship.
#6 Things You Should NEVER Do During Sex: Farting During Sex
We all have that one embarrassing moment caused by the food we ate at our previous meal. Occasionally, people fart during sex. It has happened to the best of us in or out of relationships. So, when it does, it’s important to apologize and have a quick giggle, as opposed to treating it like the elephant in the room. Also, don’t pass the blame, saying “it wasn’t me”, your partner doesn’t want to hear that. It makes the person you are with self-conscious and embarrassed.
#7 Things You Should NEVER Do During Sex: Chewing Gum or Humming to Background Music
Just like not shutting up, this one comes in closely behind. Chewing a gum while getting physical is quite a huge turn off. How do you even get to make out with a gum in your mouth? It is bad enough that you might seem absent minded, but making it glaringly obvious is repulsive. Same with humming to a background music, wait a minute, were you there to play a lead role or to do a foreplay and then the main course?
In addition, bringing in certain porn-induced graphic expectations into the bedroom can be a major disaster. First, you may need to come to terms with the fact that porn isn’t real life and many of those women probably aren’t enjoying themselves nearly as much as their screams proclaim. There’s nothing wrong with experimentation in your relationship, but let it be a mutual decision before you go ahead.
You can add to the list from your personal experiences.